tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-363095532024-03-12T23:42:54.720-05:00Dispatches from SandhillI'm an author, newspaper columnist, speaker, and prosecuting attorney. Sandhill is my home, a tiny speck in the coastal plains of southeast Georgia. From there I watch the world and write about what I see and hear and figure out. I hope there is something here that you like, that makes you think about things in a way you haven't thought before, that causes you to open your eyes and see something brand new in the places and faces you've been looking at all your life. Blessings, KathyKathy A. Bradleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16599790766843587646noreply@blogger.comBlogger225125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36309553.post-87882941259854548052015-06-18T20:24:00.005-05:002015-06-18T20:25:15.018-05:00New and Improved<div style="font-family: 'open sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: normal; margin: 0px; max-width: 99.9000015258789%;">
Back in 2004 three hurricanes brought a LOT of water to southeast Georgia in quick succession and, as a result, Sandhill was left with a very leaky roof. I took that opportunity to give her a facelift. Once it was all done, she was still the same girl, just wearing a new dress. That's what the completely redesigned <a href="http://www.kathyabradley.com/">Kathy A. Bradley</a> is like. Most of what was on the old website is still there, but the visual presentation is brighter and more interesting. And there are some new things.</div>
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For a number of years I've posted my newspaper columns here at <a href="http://www.kathyabradley.blogspot.com/">Dispatches From Sandhill</a>. It finally occurred to me that it made much more sense to combine <u><a href="http://www.kathyabradley.blogspot.com/">Dispatches From Sandhill</a></u> with the website, so that is where you'll find the columns from now on. <a href="http://www.kathyabradley.blogspot.com/"> Dispatches From Sandhill</a> will still be right here, but there will be no new posts after June 30. </div>
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Please take a look at the <a href="http://www.kathyabradley.com/#!contact/ckws">Community</a> page on the website and, if you like, subscribe to the new quarterly newsletter, The Museflash. That's just one more way to keep in touch and share stories. </div>
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The <a href="http://www.kathyabradley.com/#!contact/ckws">Community</a> page also includes an email link. Use it to inquire about appearances at your civic group, book club, church, or other event. And let me know what you're thinking -- about the website or anything else.</div>
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I love talking to people about books and writing and finding magic in the world and I want the <a href="http://www.kathyabradley.com/">website</a> to be a place to do that with the people who have embraced me and my words, a place where there is a lot of "I feel the same way" and "I know exactly what you mean." I hope you'll join the conversation. </div>
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Across the field I could hear it coming, like the rustling of a thousand pages, the whispers of a thousand lovers, the lifting of a thousand wings. The rain moved toward me across the broad, flat field, a row at a time. </div>
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I’d been doubtful, when I left the house, based upon the general dryness and the dust that rose when a single car passed me, that any significant moisture would materialize. Doubtful that the clouds, the color of pewter and thick like cotton batting, held the rain that the rows of short green stems craved. Doubtful that the sky would yield anything other than disappointment. So I had headed out.</div>
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A drop fell on my bare shoulder, another on my cheek. I watched as three tiny pools collected on the open magazine I was holding just steady enough to read. Then three more. The slick stock puckered and the ink smeared. I kept walking as I measured the time between plops. It was, it occurred to me, the exact reverse of staring at the microwave while the popcorn pops, waiting for the rapid-fire explosions to slow.</div>
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About halfway up the hill, the pine trees on either side of the road started singing. The wind was sweeping through them like breaths through an oboe, deep notes that somehow float and circle and find resonance in a heartbeat. This was no ruse, no prank. The rain is coming, the trees were telling me. I kept walking.</div>
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Eventually, though, I tired of trying to turn pages that had stuck together and were curling at the edges. I tired of fighting the wind that snatched at my hair and tried to stuff it in my mouth. I tired of doubting. I closed the magazine and stuck it under my arm. I made sure that my phone was as deep in my pocket as it could be. I sighed and turned around.</div>
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The thing about getting caught in the rain is that once you’re wet, once your clothes are stuck to your skin, once the tread on your shoes has filled with mud so that any one step could be the one that sends you sliding to the ground, there really isn’t much need to hurry. So I didn’t. I walked slowly, if not carefully, and wondered how I could have so easily presumed that the clouds were empty or, worse, fickle. How I could have been so willing to assume the sky’s offer of rain was nothing more than a meteorological bait-and-switch. Why I didn’t trust the sky. </div>
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Somewhere in my brain lies the place where lives the strange notion that if I want anything too much I am certain to not get it, the strange notion that equates desire with presumption and presumption with unworthiness. It is a notion that resists the words of great teachers and the comfort of great friends. It is an idea that has no support in science or religion and, yet, it remains, so that on this day, standing on the front porch and considering the sky, I did not dare admit that I wanted very much for the pewter clouds to relieve themselves over the dry and dusty fields.</div>
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The deepest truths, however, lie not in the brain, but in the heart. And the truth is that I do trust the sky. I trust it far more than I trust myself. I trust it to know far more than I ever will. The struggle is to remember.</div>
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Back at home, I wipe my feet, I change my clothes, I unroll the magazine so that it can dry. On the kitchen table, I spread it open. Open like my hands at communion, open like the leaves on the short green stems trembling beneath the steady fall of rain, open like a heart that can be trusted and is filled with desire. </div>
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The hydrangeas are thriving in the low, shaded spot between the deck and the carport, pale blue heads pushing their way out through the dark leaves on thick stems. Down by the steps the coreopsis is fading as the lantana comes to life and the Mexican petunias are just beginning to bud. The Russian heather is already tall and gangly, moving in the breeze like teen-aged boys shuffling their feet on the edge of the dance floor. On the other side in the corner, the rosemary has been cut back and hasn’t quite recovered from the shock, but the lemon balm and verbena and mint are happily rushing over and around each other. I can’t help pinching a leaf and crushing it between my fingers. The scent is sweet.</div>
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The three pots on the deck contain a single bright pink Gerbera daisy, a good crop of basil, and a citronella plant. Eventually, I tell myself, I will find the time to come outside after dark, sit back in the reclining chair, and test its powers at repelling mosquitoes. Eventually, but not tonight. Tonight I’m just watering.</div>
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The dial at the end has somehow been moved to a position between two of the settings. I don’t notice and turn on the water expecting a steady stream in one direction. What I get is an erratic shooting and significant drip. It takes only a couple of seconds to adjust the nozzle, but in that time I can’t help noticing how many choices I have. Jet. Mist. Flat. Cone. Shower. Angle. Center. Plus something called “½ Vert.”</div>
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Getting fired from my first job as a lawyer was a jet, a hard fast blast that tore at the ground around my trunk and left me standing in a puddle of mud. The years I spent at Wesleyan were a fine mist, gentle and consistent. The loss of people I’ve loved were hard angles, leaving me off kilter, and realizing my dream of being an author was a shower, a baptism of satisfaction and joy. </div>
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I push the lever that closes the nozzle. By the time I get to the spigot to turn it off, the water – all of it – has soaked into the ground. I hope that I have been that receptive. I hope that I have absorbed the jet and the mist with identical enthusiasm. I hope that I have allowed the angles and the showers to nourish me equally. I hope that with each watering, whatever its force, my roots have dug deeper into the soil.</div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">At last count, I had nine black dresses. Long sleeves, short sleeves, no sleeves. Cotton and jersey and wool. Sheath and shirtwaist. Tonight I am standing in the closet staring at them, hoping one of them will just jump off the hanger and end my agony of decision because, quite frankly, I’m not up to choosing. I simply can’t make it matter one bit what I will wear day after tomorrow when I get into the car and drive, yet again, to the funeral of somebody I love.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The last time I saw Denise it was the day before Easter and we were in a backyard flush with azaleas and happy children. She held the newborn baby cousin with the ease of the well-practiced, fending off with sweet smiles and gentle coos anyone who ventured close enough to think she might get a turn at snuggling this creature so fresh from heaven. We rolled our eyes in sugar-induced rapture and went back for seconds of the dessert she contributed to the table – a marvelous concoction made of blueberries from the farm she and Dan own just outside town, pineapple from somewhere that didn’t matter, and crunchy pecans that may or may not have fallen from Brantley County trees.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I am lucky, I know, that this last memory is such a sweet one. Being sweet does not, however, make it any easier to accept that it is, nevertheless and notwithstanding, the last. And it doesn’t keep me from wishing that somehow I’d known it would be the last because surely, I think, if I had known I would have ... what? Hugged harder at goodbye?</span><br />
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This time of year, these days of eager patience, is the target toward which I aim in the darkness and wetness and coldness of winter. This time of year, this trembling interlude, is what holds my feet to this patch of dirt through breathtaking heat. I want to pause the earth in its orbit. Stay, I would command. Remain in this moment, this balmy and pleasant and hopeful moment.</div>
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Within days, though, tractors pulling planters will be interrupting the silence, rattling across the flatness creating furrows, inserting seeds. The interlude will be over and the counting will begin. Ten to twelve days for corn to break the surface, for the green spikes to pierce the crusty topsoil like a knife through pound cake. Then ninety to a hundred days to maturity, to fat yellow kernels that push up against each other in long rows. And then fourteen more days before the combine will roll down rows of stalks gone brown and papery to rip the cobs from the stalks to toss and shuck and shell in an amazing show of mechanization. </div>
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It is one of the first things we are taught. “One, two, three,” we recite to our babies and urge them to repeat, applauding madly when they do. We learn new languages and begin with the numbers. Uno, dos, tres. Un, deux, trois. Eins, zwei, drei. And as soon as we learn the cardinals it is but a short leap to the ordinals – first and second and third – because we must be able to not only enumerate and quantify, but also rank. First. Biggest. Longest. Fastest. Best. </div>
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I have watched forty years of green sprouts twist and turn their way up into daylight and heard forty years of wind whistle through dry stalks. I have smelled forty years of diesel fuel puff black into the blue sky and felt forty years of damp earth on my bare feet after a prayed-for rain. And, though I have never crossed off the boxes on a John Deere calendar tacked to the wall or made a notation in a fat yellow notebook I keep in my shirt pocket, I have counted. </div>
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I have counted because I chose to make this place my home. I chose to plant my feet and my heart in this place from which I can see farther than just the pines and the pond and the land line. From this place, I can see the cardinal and the ordinal, the sun and the moon, the past and the future, everything there is to see.</div>
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Kathy A. Bradleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16599790766843587646noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36309553.post-14186697297320234782015-04-05T17:41:00.001-05:002015-05-14T14:04:56.425-05:00Open The Book<div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.6666669845581px;">
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He has brought me a stack of books, books carefully chosen from the shelves in the guest room. Others were pulled out, opened, and pushed back in with a peremptory, “Too much words.” These, the ones about the wombat, the caterpillar, and the goose, apparently have just the right ratio of words to pictures. Who knew?</div>
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The first one we will read is <u>Petunia</u>, the one about the goose. The plot goes something like this: Petunia finds a book in the meadow and because she has seen the little boy who lives on the farm taking a book to school and has heard his father say, “He who owns Books and loves them is wise,” Petunia anoints herself the barnyard sage and sets about addressing all the other animals’ problems. Addressing them, not solving them, for whatever Petunia suggests only makes the situations worse. Eventually Petunia figures out that it takes more than owning a book or carrying it around to make a person, or a goose, wise.</div>
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Jackson likes <u>Petunia</u> especially, I think, not because at four years old he understands the message, but because of the voices. I make Petunia sound like a Southern grandma. The horse sounds like Mr. Ed and the cow sounds like Elsie. The dog barks out his every word and the rooster cocka-doodle-do’s his. I love that I can make him laugh. I love that he balls his little hands into fists and draws them up to his face and hunches his shoulders as though trying to contain something combustible.</div>
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So here we are, settled in and ready. Jackson lifts the cover and folds it back. I wait for him to turn the first page, but he stops. He is looking at the inscription written on the frontispiece, the inscription written by the mother of the little girl, now a teenager, who gave me <u>Petunia</u>. “To the one who has taught me that opening the books is what is most important.”</div>
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Opening the book. Not owning the book. Not carrying it around. It is the lesson that Petunia ultimately learns, but only after spreading misinformation and bad advice all over the barnyard and, in the end, nearly blowing up all her friends by mistaking dynamite for candy.</div>
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I start reading. I do all the voices. I keep my arm tucked close around this little person who carries some of my very DNA. But I am simultaneously wondering about that inscription. I am asking myself a question. Have I really done that for which my friend gave me credit? Have I really demonstrated to the people I love, all of them, that what we own, what we carry can never be the measure of what we know? That it is only by letting ourselves be opened, only by allowing our spines to be cracked, our pages turned down, our margins scribbled upon that we become wise? That we learn to distinguish dynamite from candy?</div>
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“Now this one.” Jackson pulls the caterpillar book from the stack and hands it over to me. I can't know, but he does. He trusts me to know what to do with a book. </div>
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I must be such an irritation, I with my door closing and opening. I with my heels clicking against the cement carport. I with my agitation born of hurry. Morning was not meant to be wasted on such as this, I think as I drive away from the shimmering landscape .</div>
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Five minutes, two miles of dirt road, and I see the first headlights. With every mile they increase in number, pinpricks puncturing the softness of morning. I remember the packages of needles my mother used to buy, a sheet of crisp red aluminum foil pierced by 12 needles all placed carefully into their slots. Over time, as Mama used the needles and replaced them, not so precisely, in the foil, it became soft and wrinkled, new holes appearing, connecting to each other, making bigger holes, holes that became slits, then slashes, until it, the red foil card, was something else entirely. That is what the morning sky looks like as car after car after car crests the rise in front of me.</div>
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I have not had such a love affair with morning. I have watched the sun rise over water and fencerows and blinked my eyes at the brilliance, but ours has been a platonic relationship. We are so much alike, morning and I. Busy and eager and ... productive. No mystery. No seduction. No allure of the unknown. </div>
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Until now. Until this morning. This particular morning with its whisper of breeze that tugs at my hair and tickles my cheek and turns me, for just a moment, into an ingenue. That makes me want to sit on the steps and stare into the blush that hovers over the treetops, hugging my knees to my chest so that my heart doesn’t fall out. That makes me want to drive and drive and drive toward the warm bubble on the horizon, pulled like a magnet toward the one thing I can never reach.</div>
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It is reassuring to realize that one can still learn, can still grown, can still change. That after all the living that tends to dull the senses, all the experience that tends to create cynicism, all the birthdays that tend to chronicle fewer and fewer moments of amazement, one can still be caught unawares.</div>
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Tonight I’ll be staring at that splinter of moon dangling over Sandhill, still enamored of its magic and infatuated by its beauty, but tomorrow morning, without a tad of guilt or a smidgen or remorse, I’ll be flirting with the sunrise. When it comes to this astonishing world, I can be gladly polyamorous.</div>
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Every year, it seems, I find myself struggling toward spring, weary and weakened by the short days, the cold nights. Every year I fall toward some invisible finish line, like Philippides bearing the news of the victory at Marathon, not dead, but nearly so. This year, especially, I have been worn down by sympathetic misery for the people in Boston and Buffalo and Syracuse. Watching the videos of cars careening over iced highways and snow plows creating mountains along residential streets, I whisper a prayer of supplication for anyone who is cold and a prayer of thanksgiving that my weather extremes involve gnats and humidity. </div>
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So it was that I opened the back door this morning and realized that I did not need a coat – not even a sweater. Opened the back door and felt my eyes narrow against brightness both so foreign I hardly recognized it and so familiar I wanted to rush into its arms. Opened the back door and breathed in air that did not burn my throat.</div>
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And this is what I knew. This is what I knew standing in the light, standing in the breeze, standing in the music of the morning: The earth has survived another winter. By doing nothing more than resting and remaining it has defeated the darkness. No orbit was changed. No axis adjusted. No atmosphere altered. </div>
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As the realization rolled over me I walked around the yard to take its pulse. Weeds already sprouting in the herb garden; mint escaping its borders; dead leaves from the oak and sycamore trees choking the iris and day lily stalks. Winter always leaves a trail. </div>
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I doubt that I will ever be a lover of the dim season. I suspect that I will always face down the cold and dark with belligerence and anger and the smallest amount of whining. But, like Philippides, I will finish. I will see the winter through and I will welcome each spring as though it is the first that has ever been, echoing his final words, "Joy to you, we've won! Joy to you!"</div>
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Kathy A. Bradleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16599790766843587646noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36309553.post-7022461251182178732015-02-23T16:28:00.003-05:002015-05-05T13:08:06.968-05:00A Pocketful of PenniesIt has become an annual trip. A pilgrimage. And though we don’t remove our shoes or crawl on our knees or touch our foreheads to the ground, we probably should. The spot is that sacred.</span><br />
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In the moments when the wind dies down, the sound of wind chimes – normally melodiously soothing – is irritatingly cacophonous and with this wonder I question whether I have enough strength to open the door, climb up on something, anything and take them down from their perch so they will just ... shut ... up.</div>
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It is at this moment that the news at the top of the hour includes the announcement that General Beauregard Lee did not see his shadow and we, or at least those of us in Georgia, can expect an early spring. It is a measure of how badly I feel that I am willing to place my hope for the future in a rodent dressed like a Civil War general.</div>
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Having determined, in fact, that I do not have the strength to disarm the wind chimes, I am left with nothing to do but contemplate the silliness, the irrationality, and the ultimate irresponsibility of not just my, but everyone else's, need for a tangible sign that the end of darkness and coldness and isolation is within sight. We are enlightened people. We no longer panic when the sun slides dramatically behind the western horizon. We know it will show up again on the other horizon in just a few hours. And, yet, before dawn on Monday morning, there were 11,000 people in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania, the home of the original prognosticating woodchuck, awaiting the appearance of Punxsutawney Phil. This has been going on since 1887.</div>
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The ruts in the road have dried into peaks, crunchy beneath the footfalls that I am trying unsuccessfully to slow to a stroll. I am wondering: Is this sky really the bluest sky I’ve ever seen? Or am I just so glad, so astonished, so grateful that the clouds have been driven away and the gray swept aside that anything close to blue would seem bluest?</div>
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To the crossroads and back is 1.8 miles. To the highway and back is 3.9. There is easily enough daylight left for the longer trek. My legs need stretching. My mind needs clearing. I will take the long way. </div>
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And then, just as I get to the grain bins, just as the road begins to fall down the hill toward the red clay alley of pine trees, I change my mind. I leave the road and step over the shallow ditch into the field, littered with cotton stalks matted by days of rain. The fencerow that marks its boundary is not even a fencerow anymore, the wire and posts long gone, but it is along the fencerow that I walk, on a bed on autumn’s pine needles that my feet finally lose their rush.</div>
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The field begins to fall away, down toward the pond, and the wind softens. I can watch where I am going now. I can look to the side into the woods where we used to keep the horses, in the shade of the pine trees in the heat of the summer. I can find the place where the fence is still in place, bent into deep curves between splintered gray posts that lean at odd angles. I can see my tree, the one whose trunk makes me sit up very straight even as I lower myself to the ground for a good cry.</div>
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I have not been here, on this fencerow, in a long time. Nothing and everything has kept me away. Nothing has prevented me from coming. No signs saying, “Keep out!” No washed out lanes or fallen trees or overgrown crops to block the way. Everything has prevented me from coming. People and places calling out, “Me! Me!” My own inertia.</div>
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I am at the corner. I turn from the fencerow toward the pond. This is the lowest spot of the field. There are still a few stalks of cotton stabbing the sky, end stalks rooted in land too wet for the cotton picker. I break off a stem. Three bolls, white as a Clorox’ed dress shirt, dangle from the sharp brown burs. They are the remains. They are what is left. I walk on.</div>
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At the edge of the pond a strip of green sprouts up. Grass. The promise of spring. I look down at my hand where the stem of cotton hangs upside down. </div>
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Remember the grade school puzzles: Which is these is not like the others? I always figured them out. Always. I have always been good at categorization, at locating differences, at putting things into their places.</div>
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This time I am not sure. Is the grass out of place? Or is the cotton? On this balmy January Sunday am I to be amazed that grass has already sprouted or that cotton has managed to survive? Is one braver or stronger than the other? Is it a greater miracle to arrive ahead of schedule or to persevere long after others have given in?</div>
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Up the hill now. I can see the top of the sycamore tree in Mama and Daddy’s backyard. The equipment shelter comes into view. The grain bins are in sight again. I turn back onto the road and head home.</div>
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I remember now why I have to forsake the road sometimes. I can’t say how many miles I have walked, but I know exactly how far I have gone. Far enough to remember that coming and going are equally worthy of celebration, that running ahead and lagging behind are both respectful ways of getting somewhere, and that the path you take can always be the one that leads you where you need to go.</div>
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On that day, five days after Christmas, with the tree still up and a handful of presents still to be delivered, I had driven the back roads – Sandhill to Claxton to Glennville to Ludowici to Townsend to Darien to Saint Simons – to catch my breath and refocus my gaze. And I’d brought a friend along, someone who’d heard me talk about this spit of land that holds so much of me and my heart and wanted firsthand knowledge. We had gone in search of Tree Spirits. We had breathed in salt air and strolled past sand dunes and tidal pools from the Coast Guard Station to Gould’s Inlet and back to Massengale Park. And now we had come to Christ Church.</div>
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On a brick path worn smooth by two hundred years of footsteps, we circled the church to enter the cemetery. No gates or fences. No separation of the dead from the living. We wandered slowly among the graves – old, extremely old, and new, elaborate and humble. I pointed out to my friend a broken column, monument to a life cut short, the one piece of funerary art I knew. </div>
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I made the comment that wandering through graveyards had been a regular pastime in my childhood, something that the aunts and cousins always did on Thanksgiving afternoon while the men played pitch penny in the backyard or drove out to somebody’s pond to throw a line. My friend didn’t say anything, but the expression I got in response made me think that people in Ohio didn’t do that kind of thing.</div>
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It is cold outside tonight. Jaw-locking, teeth-clinching, head-bowing cold. The forecast is for temperatures as low as 19 degrees. I am worried for the camellias. All over town they have been bursting forth and showing off. Pink and red and coral. Stripes and solids. Ruffles and flounces. In the morning, they will be stiff and brittle and dead. I am imagining the ones at Christ Church Cemetery falling from their stems to the brick paths below.</div>
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But that is from the road. Up close you can tell that the swags are getting a little ratty and nothing matches perfectly and spider webs crowd the corners of the windows. Up close you can see that the porch needs painting and the shrubs need trimming. You can see big splats of mockingbird poop on the arms of the rocking chairs. </div>
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And when you go inside, despite the centerpiece of shiny glass ornaments on the kitchen table and the row of mercury glass votives on the sideboard and the pewter tray spilling over with Christmas greetings – stiff cardstock with your choice of matte or glossy finish – , you will see that something is wrong. The tree, dressed in glass and shell and brass and stone, is dark along its bottom quarter. The lights on that widest and heaviest part of the tree have died and no amount of jiggling of bulbs or pinching of bulbs or pulling out of bulbs has made any difference. </div>
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I am standing there staring, hands on my hips as though faced with a disobedient child, and wondering just how awful it would be to go through Christmas with a less-than-fully-lit tree. Not too awful really. I’m the only one who will be looking at it most of the time. And, like I said, from the road, well, it looks terrific.</div>
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That’s when I realize that I can’t do it, can’t let the tree remain like this. I’m not a “from the road” person. Outward appearances aren’t enough. Delicious icing can’t make up for dry cake. A handsome face can’t make up for a cold heart. Stirring rhetoric can’t make up for failure to act.</div>
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I walk a little farther and see a wall of lights. My shoulders relax only to tense up immediately as I realize that what is left are huge, 21st century versions of the garishly bright glass bulbs that donned the trees of my childhood. I move slowly down the wall to discover that I would be in luck if what I wanted was icicle lights for the eaves of Sandhill or net lights for the shrubs at Sandhill. I would be a happy woman if I wanted solar-powered lights or crystal flickering lights. I am neither lucky nor happy.</div>
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It’s Christmas. And despite all our efforts to turn it into a visual fantasy, despite all our desires to maintain the impressions other people have of us as what they see from the road, it is always going to be a celebration undertaken by imperfect, broken, damaged people who occasionally get it right. Who sometimes, every now and then, in the rare moment exhibit random twinkling. And in the random twinkling make everything whole.</div>
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Kathy A. Bradleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16599790766843587646noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36309553.post-50938817587204561082014-12-07T22:04:00.006-05:002014-12-07T22:04:57.041-05:00December Refrain<div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.6666669845581px;">
<span style="font-size: 12.6666669845581px;">It is Advent. The season of wonder. Hot on the trail of Thanksgiving and Black Friday and just a few hours before Cyber Monday. And so far the only wonder I’ve experienced is what to do with two perfectly good pumpkins that, along with a couple of diminutive bales of hay, some cotton stalks and branches of eucalyptus, and about a dozen pine cones, made a lovely autumnal tableau for the front porch at Sandhill for the last two months.</span></div>
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It is Advent. And while I did manage to find the advent wreath and the new candles I bought on sale at the end of last year, four tall candles with soft white wicks, I couldn’t remember where the pink one goes so I had to Google it. And I decided that, in a world where people make Advent wreaths out of Legos, Mason jars, and/or pipe cleaners, I probably don’t need to be too worried about whether the candle of joy is in the front or back, on the right or left.</div>
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The wonder I am experiencing is not awe and amazement or childlike anticipation. The wonder that has me by the throat is speculation and doubtful curiosity. I can’t stop wondering why the focus in this season of preparation and anticipation continues to be on great deals and unbelievable bargains when, if we really believe the story, there’s only the one, the one best deal ever offered. I can’t stop wondering about the world’s unanswered questions, failed intentions, the disappointing behaviors long enough to feel the wonder of lighted trees and scented candles and welcoming wreaths.</div>
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I am reminding myself of this when across the road flash one, two ... six ... no, eight, nine deer, long and lean, stretching out into the interruption of the headlights like dashes flowing from a fountain pen. There and gone. I sit at the mailbox for a few seconds longer staring at where the deer have been, a circle of pale yellow halogen light hovering, quivering in an ocean of night.</div>
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In 1933, folklorist John Jacob Niles was attending a meeting of evangelicals who had been ordered out of town by the police of Murphy, North Carolina, when a girl, dirty and dressed in ragged clothes, stepped onto a little platform attached to a car and began singing a single line of a song. Seven times she sang for the price of twenty-five cents for each performance. In his autobiography Niles wrote, “[S]he was beautiful, and in her untutored way she could sing.” From the single line that the girl sang over and over, that one fragment of melody, Niles composed the folk song that became the carol “I Wonder As I Wander.” </div>
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A line in the second stanza goes, “High from God’s heaven, a star’s light did fall.” Rolled out over the top of the car where I sit, still and alone, over the field where the deer fly silently in a herd, over the piece of dirt where all year long I wonder and wander, the stars’ lights fall tonight. They are exceptionally bright. The sky is like a connect-the-dot picture. I get the feeling that if I can link one star to another to another to another something wonderful will appear. Something wonderful. Something wonder full.</div>
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I stare. Not hard. Not intently as though into a microscope, but with eyes wide and receptive. I can make it out now. It is the dirty ragged girl on the platform. The poor child with nothing to offer. I blink and then blink again when I recognize my own face. I am the one with dirty hands and feet, with patched clothes, with nothing but my untutored gifting and a craving to share with the world that which is inside. And I can do it only because I stand in the rain, in the reign of starlight pouring high from God’s heaven on a too-warm December night.</div>
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It is Advent. I still don’t know what to do with the pumpkins. Or any of the other things, tangible and intangible, that are left over from previous seasons, but I’m beginning to understand how to best anticipate and prepare for the best season of all. I will keep wondering. I will keep wandering. And I will keep singing one line over and over and over again. Emanuel. God with us.</div>
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Kathy A. Bradleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16599790766843587646noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36309553.post-23095300203706427332014-11-23T13:44:00.001-05:002014-11-23T13:50:45.251-05:00"Owl-Eyes Spoke To Me"<div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.6666669845581px;">
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The sky was dungaree blue, clinging to just enough light to maintain a horizon where the spikes of pine trees stood like arrows proclaiming, “This way to the exit.” I wasn’t driving all that fast. As soon as I saw him standing like a referee on the painted line in the middle of the road, I took my foot off the accelerator assuming that the sound of the approaching engine and the brightening headlights would motivate him into flight. It did.</div>
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He spread his wings and turned to face me. For half a second we were eye-to-eye. Long enough for me to recognize him as an owl, to see the wide-as-a-saucer circle of feathers around his eyes, to be transported by memory’s subway pass to another time when my eyes met those of another creature and the world fell away. And then he flew directly into the grill.</div>
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I gasped, slowed, looked for a place to turn around, hopeful – How can a person be so hopeful? – that he had just been stunned and was even then fluttering drunkenly off to his nest to tell the story. “Honey, you ain’t gonna believe ...”</div>
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The headlights splayed out across the road in long white cones and, along the other painted line, the one that divides pavement from ditch, I saw the feathered body, a still shadow. I burst into tears.</div>
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It was about time. The last week had been a painful one, a traumatic one. I’d buried two people I love, one a friend of nearly 30 years whose brilliant life had ended far too soon and one a woman whose long and fruitful 91 years had included her claiming of me as one of her own shortly after the death of my beloved Grannie. I had offered hugs and words of condolence, I had held hands and shared memories. At the latter gathering I’d even stood up in front of everybody, told a story or two, offered some scripture, and prayed. But I hadn’t cried. Not really.</div>
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So now I did. And as I sobbed, gripping the steering wheel and blinking rapidly so that I could still see the road ahead, I turned on the owl, demanding loudly an explanation for why he had to fly straight into the car, a reason for why he should have been in the road in the first place, a justification for why he could not have delayed his kamikaze dive for the next inevitable pair of headlights.</div>
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Owls, it is said, are the only creatures who can live with ghosts. And they are, of course, purveyors of wisdom. I didn’t really want to think that the women whose losses I was grieving were trying to speak. I mean, that would be just a little too weird. Even for me. Yet, there was something otherworldly about that moment when the owl locked his gaze with mine. It was as though I’d stumbled into a thin place, unknowingly wandered into land equidistant between heaven and earth.</div>
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The cell phone dinged. The peculiar ding of a text message. I was almost home. There were no other cars on the road. I slowed to a crawl and looked down at the screen, one hand on the steering wheel, the other trying to get the tears out of my eyes so that I could actually read the words. But the message wasn’t words. It was a photo of Jackson standing in the dim white lights of a just-raised Christmas tree, his four-year-old hand reaching out to place a candy cane on one of the branches, the profile of his expressionless face all curves and softness. He looked like an angel, all that blondness, all that cherubic innocence. </div>
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The denim sky was fading quickly, the pine trees fading into darkness. I leaned into the curve that hugs the pond where the Canada geese gather every morning and I heard the voice of the owl whispering, translating for himself. “Life is tender, sweet girl. Life is tender. It is precious and must be protected, but it is fragile and must not be crushed. Hold it close, but hold it loose.”</div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.6666669845581px;">There are so many ways to measure the movement of the year. The temperature of the breeze that comes wafting across the field, the color of the vegetation along the fence rows, the birdsongs or lack thereof. Each of them in one way or another announces the passage of time from one season to another. But breezes and briars and birds can be deceptive. Wet summer winds can demand a sweater. Rain can make an autumn ditch run like spring. Birds can get confused.</span></div>
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I remember, sometime in the last week of August, pulling up to the stop sign at the intersection of what Adam and Kate always called the middle sized road and Highway 301, the thoroughfare Daddy remembers as a dirt road, that I remember as a two-lane blacktop, that now fans out across four lanes and a median for most of its way into town. The whirly-gig of my mind was spinning from one thing to another: Would the 11 o'clock meeting end in time for me to make the 12 o'clock meeting? How high must the humidity be today to make those fat drops of water rolling off the roof of the house onto the hydrangea leaves sound like the flop of a big old toad frog? Should I stop for gas before work or after?</div>
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There was a lot of traffic. Both ways. So I had to sit still. I had to sit still and stare into the sun stuck just above the image of the horizon and I realized it was not where it was the week before. It was casting longer shadows. Its color was transforming from the clear blue-white light of summer to the mellower yellower light of fall. Already. </div>
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It was still hot at the time. Run the air conditioner hot. Walk barefoot to the mailbox hot. Wear sleeveless dresses hot. The geraniums on the front porch were still blooming. The leaves on the sycamore were still green. The peanuts were still in the field. It still felt like summer. But the light was saying differently. The light was not confused. The light knew that the year is waning. </div>
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Well, actually I did, of course. I know how to read a calendar. But I chose to ignore the facts and live in denial of the inevitable, a situation that has left me this week rummaging through the closet in the guest room looking for warmer clothes, trying to remember how to work the heater in the car, and asking myself, as I scour the house for everything with an LED display, why exactly is it that I am changing all the clocks to a time one hour ago to re-experience again the hour I just lived. Believe me, there was nothing particularly worth reliving about that hour.</div>
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It is not the first time I have chosen obliviousness over enlightenment, ignorance over knowledge, unconsciousness over discernment. It is not the first time I have stood in direct sunlight and declared, “I don’t see a thing.” And it is not a big leap to predict it will not be the last. </div>
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I wish it were not so. I wish that I, like light, could not be confused. I wish that discombobulation was beyond my capacity. I wish that no matter what happened I could count on myself to be “the natural agent that stimulates sight and makes things visible.” I am not, though, a huge ball of flaming gases. I do not cast shadows and spark photosynthesis. I do not exert a gravitational pull on anything. I am a singular being who imagines herself motionless as she flies through space at over a thousand miles per hour.</div>
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I will never be light. I will always teeter on the edge of bewilderment. And, as I teeter, the best I can do is point my gaze toward the horizon and search out the sun. </div>
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I know a lot of songs. A lot. I can easily do a set of 70s pop, American folk songs, or Broadway show tunes. I can do Streisand from all six decades. I can do traditional hymns and contemporary praise music (what my friend Phyllis calls “hippie songs”). This morning I found myself drying off, applying moisturizer, and brushing my teeth to the sweet and simple melodies I learned in Sunday School. “Jesus Loves Me.” “Only A Boy Named David.” And, of course, “Deep and Wide.”</div>
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It’s hard to sing “Deep and Wide” with a mascara wand in your hand. You have to fight the urge to do the accompanying hand motions, the vertical and horizontal extensions and, once you get to the “fountain flowing” part, the swaying and finger wiggling. “Deep and Wide” is probably the first song I learned to sing, after “Happy Birthday,” and I remember standing in front of the church and being particularly proud of the coordination I was exhibiting as we sang to our parents – remembering all the words and extending and swaying and wiggling at all the right times. All these years later there was something in me that felt the need to demonstrate my continued competency in that regard, but I was running late for work, so sing was all I can do.</div>
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Which is probably why I actually heard the words themselves. Deep and wide. Paid attention to the refrain. Deep and wide. Heard them and stopped to consider for a moment what they actually mean. Deep and wide. To my three-year-old brain the only possible association was literal. The deep end of the pool. The door left wide open. But to the woman standing before the mirror, the connotations were far less material. </div>
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Human beings hunger for conversations and relationships that are deep; experience that is wide. And, yet, there remains something in us that demands ease and predictability, limits and boundaries. Like our brains partitioned into lobes assigned different physical functions, it seems that our psyches are partitioned as well. We may not be both Jekyll and Hyde, but surely where there is within us a place for City Mouse there is likewise a spot for Country Mouse as well. </div>
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When I left home for college I had no intention of coming back. Deep and wide beckoned me with greater intensity at every mile marker. Deep and wide existed, in my mind, in places and people I’d not yet seen or met. My arms could not extend far enough to take them in.</div>
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Sometimes, when a friend sets off on a great adventure or accomplishes some notable deed, I wonder what might have happened if deep and wide had become far and away. Sometimes, when the burdens of the day press down on my shoulders like a fertilizer sack, I wonder what I might be doing if I had chosen shallow and narrow and followed a path someone else had forged. But sometimes, when the sun is setting and the tops of the pine trees look like paint brushes set aflame and the deer at the edge of the field shine like burnished bronze and the rhythm of the rocking chair matches that of my beating heart, I don’t wonder. I don’t wonder at all.</div>
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Kathy A. Bradleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16599790766843587646noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36309553.post-29855233484174844752014-10-12T16:50:00.000-05:002014-10-13T07:39:27.266-05:00Eclipses Are Slow<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.8000001907349px;">Eclipses are slow. Which means there is plenty of time to notice the dew on my feet and the armadillo hole I may or may not be standing in, to hear a strange choral performance by the frogs in the branch that sounds like a rustling of the feathers of a giant flock of geese, to get just a little impatient and start staring at the stars instead, making up my own constellations.</span><br />
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Eclipses are slow. Which means it is probably inevitable that I will end up wondering what it is about me and moons. Full ones, half ones, quarter ones. Waxing and waning ones. Harvest moons and blood moons and paper moons. </div>
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I remember the one that rose over the field behind Mama and Daddy’s house as big and orange as a revival tent. I remember the one that spilled out over the ocean at Amelia Island, too tired to lift itself all the way out of the water. I remember the one that lit up my car with green light and followed me home from work and another one that hypnotized me through the windshield and caused me to miss my turn on the way home from Baxley. I remember them as though they are not all one moon, are not the same heavenly body spinning wildly and, yet, predictably through space around this heavenly body on which I am spinning wildly and, yet, predictably through space.</div>
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Moon myths are as old as man. My favorite may be the Inuit tale in which the moon, called Anningan, chased his sister Malina, the sun, across the sky every day, forgetting to eat in his pursuit so that he grew thinner and thinner. Not a completely logical explanation, but certainly a poetic one and, in an age before telescopes are pointed toward the sky, the poet is revered above the scientist. </div>
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The thought crosses my mind like Anningan and Malina crossing the sky, arcing and falling. Filling and emptying out. Giving and taking. </div>
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I also suspect that my friend the astronomer might tell me that pointing lenses – telescope or camera – is not supposed to explain humanity’s love affair with the moon, but only to document it. I imagine that she might tell me that a knowledge of astrophysics would not assist me in articulating why I stay up late and get up early to stare at circles and half-circles and slivers of reflected light. I think, but cannot prove, that she would even be a bit perplexed at my need to try.</div>
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That may be why we still need myths, the stories that explain without logical explanation, the tales not of things that never happened, but of things so important that they happened and still happen over and over again. And it may be why we need poets, the people who bid us to join them in the grass, throw back our heads, and stare at the sky. </div>
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Kathy A. Bradleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16599790766843587646noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36309553.post-52807219352267800522014-09-28T12:58:00.000-05:002014-09-28T12:58:27.979-05:00Lennon and McCartney and Grannie<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.6666669845581px;">A flock of blackbirds covers the field. Two hundred maybe. Silent and still before rising, as though at the lift of some unseen maestro’s baton, into the air in one loud flap like a bleached sheet on a clothesline. I watch and listen and shiver. Blackbirds. Sign of cold weather.</span><br />
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Grannie said that. And every year, come fall and the first golden day in the 60s, come sycamore leaves bigger than my hand and the color of cured tobacco falling in layers in the back yard, come the rattling of peanut trailers and the drone of cotton pickers, I hear her voice. “Blackbirds. Sign o’ cold weather.”</div>
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Grannie was not a superstitious woman. Well, maybe she was: She didn’t sweep out the back door after sundown and she didn’t wash clothes on New Year’s Day. And, for some reason we never figured out, we couldn’t have fish and ice cream at the same meal. But superstition was a play thing. You could never really know. Unless you went ahead and washed clothes on New Year’s Day and you got to the end of the year and nobody in the family had died. That was, however, an experiment she was not willing to undertake. </div>
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Signs, though. Signs were different. Signs were visible, audible, tangible connections to the world. One could plant and harvest and, thus, survive by signs. One could plan and hope and, thus, survive by signs. They were gifts of knowledge. Knowledge in a world where knowledge was scarce, where television had yet to be invented, where newspapers did not get delivered, where the only book in the tin-roofed house was a Bible.</div>
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And so she woke up each morning – babies at her feet and on her hip, cast iron skillet in her hand – and looked for signs. A red sky meant bad weather was coming. Thunder in the morning meant “sailors take warning.” And blackbirds meant cold was on its way. </div>
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I’ve been told that I look like Grannie. Once I caught a glimpse of myself in a mirror in a dark room – hair pulled back tight, no makeup – and a short shallow gasp left my throat. For a second I thought I’d seen her, long dead, walking beside me. Not long after, Daddy came in from the field and walked past a room where I was standing and stopped short. “My God!” he said, this man who uses the name of the divine only with reverence. “You look just like Mama.” </div>
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But it is not just the large eyes and the straight nose, the dark hair. I look like Grannie for signs. I watch the sky, but I also watch people. I watch the birds, but I also watch the times. I listen to the wind, but I also listen to the silence, the words and the spaces between them. </div>
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What was knowledge for Grannie has become information for me and information is not scarce in my world. I press a button on my telephone and ask Siri, “What is the temperature in Abu Dhabi today?” and in less than two seconds she tells me. (The high will be 100 degrees, the low 86.) Knowledge, though, that is still the pearl of great price.</div>
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What then are they signing, the birds who rise and circle and land again in one grand apostrophe? What is the message they telegraph in the black dots and dashes of their winged code? What knowledge lies within the whispers of their folding wings?</div>
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Kathy A. Bradleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16599790766843587646noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36309553.post-82914218017722164582014-09-14T19:18:00.004-05:002014-09-14T19:18:37.220-05:00The Backs of Drawers<div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.6666669845581px;">
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The backs of drawers are dangerous places. There lie keys to locks I no longer wish to open and ticket stubs to movies I no longer remembering seeing or, worse, remember too well. In the far corners, worse than the mints without wrappers and the dead spiders, my fingers find souvenir matchbooks and fortunes from cookies folded like unbloomed roses. The backs of drawers are not mines; they are tombs.</div>
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It is hard to remember the anticipation with which I used to drop off rolls of film, filling out the information on the thick paper envelopes: name, address, number of prints, glossy or matte. I knew where I had pointed the camera, knew what I’d hoped to capture, but had only a vague idea of what would appear on the 3½ x 5 rectangles of slick photo paper. Sometimes I could wait until I got outside the store to delve into the package, most of the time not. The instant gratification of digital photography eliminates the disappointment of shuttered eyes and crooked grins, but it also extinguishes that little flame of excitement.</div>
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It took a moment, but only a moment, to recognize the skeleton of a building silhouetted against a summer blue sky. Sandhill, the brick already laid around the foundation, the framing done, the windows boxed, the trusses hoisted high like a teepee. Stacks of 2x4s, a pallet of brick for the fireplace, and saw horses scattered across the yard. A faceless carpenter straddling some beams.</div>
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Twenty-four summers ago the contractor dug up already-pegged peanuts to pour the footings of the foundation. Twenty-four summers ago Adam and Kate posed on the stacks of lumber and tried to get Fritz and Ginny, the golden retrievers, to walk the plank before the steps were installed. Twenty-four summers ago you still had grandparents living and you didn’t have a cell phone and so many of the people you love now you didn’t know existed. This is what the photos whisper.</div>
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One night, when the subfloor had just been laid but no walls were raised, when the whole house was one big open stage, I climbed up and walked through each room, arms raised under a silver summer moon, and blessed the house to come. Blessed all who would enter, all who would remain. Twenty-four summers ago.</div>
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The front door is a different color now and there is a deck on the back. But the bay window still catches the sunset, the front porch the breeze. The deer still rustle through the branch when the back door opens and mockingbirds still fill the trees. Twenty-four summers have passed. She is different and yet the same.</div>
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Memory overcomes curiosity and I can suddenly see the mimosa tree growing in the backyard of the duplex apartment where we lived when I was a little girl. Its branches dip so far down that even my four-year-old arms can reach those tiny little leaves. I love that they fold in on themselves when I touch them, coquettishly resisting my attention and, moments later, reopening invitingly as though to say, “No, really, I was only teasing.” </div>
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In the shed there is a pink frying pan on the pink stove I got for Christmas. I break a branch off the mimosa tree, strip the leaves from the stem, wet them in a puddle by the back steps, and then dredge them in sand. I put them in the pink frying pan on the pink stove. I am playing house. I am having a fish fry. I would like to cut some of the flowers, put them in a Coca-Cola bottle as a centerpiece for my table, but I know better. The frothy filaments of mimosa blossoms wilt faster than morning glories. </div>
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But they are so beautiful, the color of deep pink associated with Florida and Silver Springs and swimsuits with halter tops and sweetheart necklines, things I have never actually seen, things I can know only from postcards and the labels on the big bags of oranges that the cousins from Florida bring with them when they come to visit. Once, Mama made a dance recital costume for a little girl that was just that color. It was made of satin, smooth and shiny like an evening gown, something else I had never seen. She sewed on every single sequin by hand, attached the ruffle of net onto the little derrière with stitches so tiny and tight no one could see them, and when it was finished she let me try it on and have my picture taken underneath the mimosa tree holding an umbrella made of stiff tissue paper and balsa wood.</div>
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Who knew the word glamorous at the age of four, but that’s what I was. I knew it. I tilted my head and cocked my shoulder and smiled shyly at the Brownie camera, completely unaware that mine was not and never would be a dancer’s body, oblivious to the fact that the satin stretched and puckered across my round belly, incapable of comprehending that the world was anything beyond that single moment. Itchy grass. Sunshine. Mimosa tree. Mama.</div>
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Madeleine L’Engle, she who taught me of time travel and tesseracts, once remarked, “Nothing important is completely explicable.” This simultaneity, it is important. It is inexplicable. It is always and everywhere.</div>
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I carry the nest inside and place it on the kitchen counter. There is a basket of pears grown on Mama’s tree and a hand-painted ceramic bowl I bought at the Club Mud sale at Georgia Southern. On an opposite wall is the framed blue ribbon Grannie won at the fair and a cross-stitched map of Georgia on which I added an extra X for Register. On every wall, on every tabletop, on every bookcase there is a bit or scrap of my life and those scraps have been spun and threaded together into a home. Into a nest. And it is mine. </div>
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The lair, the lodge, the sett. The burrow, the den, the warren. Each is a digging out, an excavation, an emptying. Only the nest is a building up, a construction, a filling. Only the nest takes bits and scraps, pieces and flecks, leftovers and remainders and turns them into a seamless whole. That is why we call it nesting.</div>
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For the last fifteen years or so, the milk bottle has sat quietly on a shelf at Sandhill, the receptacle for quarters I will not spend, a conservatory for the flat silver discs that clink their way into a mound of delayed gratification. When the bottle is full, I treat myself to something frivolous or, if not frivolous, at least a bit more extravagant than I would usually allow. Sitting on the floor, tilting the bottle just so, watching the quarters tumble through the mouth of the bottle, feeling it grow lighter and lighter as it empties, I remember the little girl thrill of emptying a piggy bank. Stacking the quarters in towers of four, counting out the dollars, I am taken back to childhood Saturdays and McConnell’s Dime Store and the Whitman Books display – a spinning rack where the Timber Trail Riders and Donna Parker and Trixie Belden waited for me and my insatiable appetite for words.</div>
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One morning while mindlessly brushing my teeth, I saw the bottle from the corner of my eye. And for the first time in ages noticed the word etched in thick block letters up one side: WORTHWHILE. </div>
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It was, as I recalled, the name of the store from which I’d purchased the bottle, but in all this time I’d never really thought about it as being anything other than that – the name of the store. In a single glimpse, a sideways glance, though, I now saw with the clarity of a stare, a glare, a studied focus that it was more than a label. </div>
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Worthwhile, worth the while, worthy of the wait. It was a question. From its perch on the shelf next to the crystal clock and the ceramic angel, the bottle was asking me, “Is the container into which you are dropping your currency worthwhile? Are the things and people in which you are investing worth the while? Are the dreams you are dreaming worthy of the wait?”</div>
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I finished getting ready and headed out into the morning. The questions stayed with me like chaperones.</div>
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Sometime around lunch I heard another question join them when the voice of the poet Mary Oliver whispered in my ear: “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” </div>
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Wild? Not an adjective generally associated with me. Precious? I’ll accept it, but point out its substantial subjectivity. One? Ah, there’s the rub. No argument available against it, no plausible dispute possible. One life. One milk bottle into which the coins of minutes and hours, days and weeks, months and years go dropping one by one. And as I tilt the bottle, as I watch the days and years tumble out at what feels like equal speed, on what will I spend them? </div>
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I spent the weekend on Signal Mountain with some friends. On Saturday afternoon we found ourselves in a shop with a spinning rack that held greeting cards, not books. The five of us stood shoulder to shoulder reaching in and pulling out, reading to ourselves and each other the poignant, the clever, the down-right funny sentiments. </div>
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I already had my hands full of selections to purchase when one of my friends said, “Here. This is you.” She handed me a card on which I read another quote from Mary Oliver: “Instructions for life: Pay attention. Be amazed. Tell about it.” </div>
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What do I plan to do with my one wild and precious life? I plan to pay attention and be amazed. And with every moment that tumbles out of the bottle and into my hand, I plan to tell about it. </div>
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I am in the top bunk, my face not far from the ceiling of the room I share with my little brother. He is asleep, curled into a comma in his cowboy pajamas on the lower bunk. Not far from his face are the red and green linoleum tiles that make the floor of the entire duplex a giant checkerboard. Sometimes I walk through the rooms stepping only on one color or the other. The tiles are big and it is not easy on four-year-old legs.</div>
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I am not usually awake in dark this dark. I am usually, like my brother, asleep, lost in Schopenhauer’s “little death.” But tonight is not usual. Tonight I am lost in what lies beyond the window, what lies beyond my street and the street behind it and the summer night heavy with humidity and the sounds of crickets and frogs and distant traffic. I am lost in something for which I do not yet have words.</div>
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It is the strange sensation of being in two places at once, of rubbing my arms and legs across the sun-dried sheets, of reaching out to touch the cool wall with my hand, of hearing the bunk bed creak when I roll over onto my side, while simultaneously drifting through the window and up and over the backyard, pulled by something strong and irresistible toward someplace. It is as though I am both myself and Wendy, for whom Peter Pan has flown all the way from Neverland to take back to the Lost Boys. How is that possible?</div>
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I can not tell my father, who tiptoes in and peers into each of our faces in turn, who leans in close to hear our breathing, who touches our arms to assure himself that we are really there, I can not tell my father that I am here and also somewhere else, that I have discovered, accidentally and haphazardly, imagination. I can not tell him or anyone else – because I don’t know it yet myself – that I will never be the same.</div>
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It is years later. A lifetime later. I am lying on my back. The darkness outside the window has a blue tinge to it, as though the night has frozen. There is a moon, but it is blocked for the moment by the languid flow of thick clouds. There is another shed in another backyard. The sheets against which I rub my arms and legs have never dried in sunlight. </div>
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I am often awake in dark this dark. Often gazing at a ceiling that hovers far enough above my face that I am reminded of my near-sightedness. Often carried away to a place that has grown as familiar to me as my hometown, though I don’t always call it by its real name. I am more comfortable, in some circles, with saying that I am reflecting, daydreaming, or – God, forgive me! – brainstorming, but no euphemism, no circumlocution, no periphrasis changes the fact that what I am doing is imagining. And every last thing that I imagine is real.</div>
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I do not need a stocking-shaped shadow folded up inside a bureau drawer or a box of Turkish delight or a passport stamped Minas Tirith as evidence that I have been to Neverland and Narnia and Middle Earth. I do not need geological specimens from the thousand other places I created in order to establish their existence. And I have all the momentoes I want locked away in the warm summer night of my imagination.<br />
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